Living for Christ
As Christians, what do we live for? The Bible provides the answer in straightforward terms.
No longer are we to be living for ourselves but living for Him, the Christ who died and rose again to our benefit; for the removal of our sin. This is love, not that we loved Him but that He first loved us and died for us. This is gratitude that has its outworking in love and obedience--living for Christ.
To be "Controlled By" is to be "Preoccupied With"
"Control" (in the Greek) means to "compel or preoccupy". When our actions are deliberately taken to be in alignment with our love for Christ, we can be said to be "controlled by our love for Christ". We chose the actions we take, we calculate the decisions we make, based on whether the outcome will be in obedience to Christ and will please Him. As the Greek implies, our minds are preocuppied with how to please Christ. This is love. This is being controlled by love.
"If you love Me, you will keep My commandments." (John 14:15)
"He who has My commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me;…" (John 14:21a)
Love, when it is the motive for action, means that the one who is loved will be the main beneficiary of the action (1 Corinthians 13:5). When I live for Christ, controlled by love for Him, my actions are purposely designed to benefit Christ, His glory, and His kingdom. In the case of a hedonist, he is both the one acting and the one receiving benefit, for he is living in pursuit of his own pleasure; his love for himself and for his pleasures have caused him to act on his own behalf.